Tuesday, August 3, 2010

A Word About Friends...

Most of my readers don't live in their hometowns, so I'm writing to ask if you have had this problem.

I have great friends at home. I can count my good and real friends on one hand. I have found since I got married and moved, that some "friends" have different attitudes and roles in my life. One girl, who I did consider a good friend, has become really short with me. When I first moved to North Carolina she would text me all the time. Anytime I visited home, we would hangout. Then she would text me about how I "should" be home and that I'm missing out on things. Then her sister started in on it. I'm sorry, I'm not coming home just so I can be at a bar every weekend. It's not that simple and easy. She stopped texting me, accused me of not staying in touch (which is a little true, I was sick of being reminded about what I was missing out on) and snaps at me whenever I DO text her.

Danny has had some friend problems too. And I do blame myself. We used to be really close to one of Danny's friends, until he got engaged. I spent a week with his fiance at a hotel. We spent all day together. At night, silly me assumed we would hangout with our guys. She never asked/implied that we should all hangout. This was in January. Fast forward a few months later, they get married and now she is living in Jacksonville. We never hear from his friend. Yesterday they talked about it. He isn't allowed to talk or hangout with Danny because we didn't hangout with them that week at the hotel. SERIOUSLY?!

Over the weekend we went bowling with a great group of people. I even told Danny that I love our group of friends. The people I consider myself closest to, I don't even talk to all the time. But I know it's not because we are mad at each other, we just have that great of a friendship that we can pick up wherever we left off. Even more strange...I consider my bloggy friends great friends. Am I living in a fantasy world?!

Has anyone else found that since you have moved, married, had a big change in your life....that friends have treated you differently?

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